If there was one show that perfectly captured the quiet, suburban ennui of the late 1970s and early 80s, it was Butterflies. While other sitcoms of the era relied on slapstick or loud catchphrases, Carla Lane’s masterpiece gave us something far more delicate: the story of Ria Parkinson, a woman fluttering between the life she had and the life she imagined.
A Kitchen Table Drama
At the heart of the show was the contrast between Ria and her husband, Ben. Ben, played with a wonderfully dry detachment by Geoffrey Palmer, was a man of routines and lepidoptery (the study of moths and butterflies). He was as predictable as the daily news on a Philips portable radio.
Their kitchen was the stage for most of the drama, usually centered around Ria’s infamously bad cooking. It was a time of burnt offerings and culinary experiments that never quite landed—a far cry from the "Gold Medallist" cakes you’d find at J. Bright & Son in Hamworthy. Yet, there was something deeply relatable about those family meals. We all remember sitting around a table with a Huntley & Palmers Family Circle tin nearby, navigating the small, everyday tensions of family life.
The Temptation of the "What If?"
Then there was Leonard. Where Ben was stable and silent, Leonard was romantic and attentive. Their meetings in the park—often feeling as staged and innocent as a slide in a Give-A-Show Projector—represented the "what if" that many people felt in the suburbs.
The show moved at a gentle pace, much like a lazy afternoon watching the Poole Park Model Railway or the Swanage Railway chugging past Corfe Castle. It wasn’t about big explosions; it was about the small, magnetic pulls of the heart, not unlike the tiny iron filings on a Wooly Willy card.
A Reflection of the Era
- The Music: The melancholy theme song by Dolly Parton set the tone before a single word was spoken. It felt like the soundtrack to a world changing from the glam-rock energy of The Sweet or Slade into something a bit more introspective.
- The Style: From Ria's feathered hair to the "Parfum de Caractère" of a Saturday night out, the show was a perfect time capsule of British life.
- The Humor: It was found in the mundane—the bickering sons, Adam and Russell, who were probably more interested in their Meccano sets or the latest Beano than their parents' emotional lives.
Why We Still Love Ria
Butterflies remains special because it treated the domestic "traps" we all feel with such empathy. It understood that life isn't always as colorful as a bag of licorice Allsorts or as whimsical as The Clangers. Sometimes, it’s just about trying to find a bit of magic in the everyday, even if it’s just over a cup of tea by the gas fire.
Ria Parkinson taught us that it's okay to have dreams, even if they stay as fragile and fleeting as the butterflies Ben kept in his study.






